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I have a confession to make: It is not enough that I succeed, others must fail. It is a strange feeling, like schadenfreude takes over me all the time. Winning feels good: getting the best grade in the class, winning a prize in a sports competition, or just going to an elite school. Now why is this the case? What makes you feel so good when you win? Is it because of the shiny medal, certificate of recognition? Kind of, but to be honest, these are only instruments to prove that you are better than other people, and thats what I mean by others must fail. After extensive pondering as to why this is the case, I have come to the conclusion that it is because of relativity.

At first, I thought only standardized tests applied with using relativity to live. When you get an A on the test, you probably feel good right? But is it because you got an A, or is it because most other people got Bs, Cs or Ds? See, the thing is, the point of test scores is to differentiate between the smart people and not-so-smart people. Obviously, I’m not saying that just because you are bad at tests, you are going to fail at life, (everybody has their own strengths). But lets say suddenly everybody gets full marks on a test. Although originally you might feel good about it, perhaps even brag about it, soon after learning that everybody has received the same marks, there is no longer anything to brag about. The test is no longer useful if this is the case, and that means your mark no longer means anything as well. It sucks, but it is true.

Soon after thinking about it for quite some time, I realised that everything in life is about relativity. Who are you to say whats good, whats bad, whats small, who’s dumb, or all the other things you judge? The truth is, things are judged solely based on other things. E.g. how do you tell if you are tall or not? Is 6 foot considered tall or not? No. it is not. A 6 foot person is only considered tall when compared to a 5 foot person, or the world average of 5’6″. If that person was born in a parallel universe where everybody was at least 10 foot tall, he would be considered a dwarf.

At the same time, relativity even applies to emotions. You would only know how it feels to be happy if you’ve been sad before, because if you haven’t, then there would be no way to know whether you were ‘happy’ or not, rather you would just feel normal.

In conclusion, me want others to fail in order to succeed isn’t really a confession after all for it shouldn’t really be a taboo anyways. Other successful people might not admit it because they might sound arrogant or something, but if everybody was successful, they would no longer be deemed successful because for there to be successful people, there must be people who are ‘failures’ to compare and contrast against. Therefore, it is not a choice to want others to fail if you want to succeed, it is a condition that must be fulfilled in order to succeed.